Saturday, July 21, 2007

Why Men Cheat: Why Bad Men Cheat and Good Men Don't

One of the most painful experiences one undergoes in life is discovering your boyfriend or husband is a cheating man. It becomes even more painful if you strongly care about, or deeply love, him. Why men cheat is a question that demands a deep and introspective research and before we start we have to clarify what we really mean by cheating. Cheating to some people may be simple glances at a good looking woman as she walks down the street or thinking about that sexy looking number that is displayed on the calendar or thinking ‘if only I am single’.

According to woman savers 22 percent of married men have strayed at least once during their married lives, 70 percent of married women did not know of their spouses' extramarital activity, while another 3 percent of married women reported having sex with someone other than their spouse. In the year 1997, 22 percent of men admitted to having sexual relations outside their marriage sometime in their past and 17 percent of divorces in the United States are caused by infidelity.

Some of the best known males who have cheated include Hugh Grant on Liz Hurley and Tommy Lee on Heather Locklear .

At what point does a woman believes her partner is cheating her, is largely dependant on her level of insecurity. A woman who lacks confidence, who does not feel good about herself and is full of insecurities might become paranoid at the mere mention of another woman, while another who is full of self-confidence and is comfortable with herself and with her relationship is far less likely to get concerned with straying eyes and a meaningless comment.

Before answering the question ‘why do men cheat’ we need to understand as to what is normal behavior for a man. Can we get upset when a man enjoys a little flirtatious behavior or remarks on the good looks of super model if the act or comment hardly bears any substance? An innocent action that in no way impacts the way a man feels about his partner is harmless, it is how much he is and can be trusted to draw the line that matters.

Some men are just born to cheat and it is in their very nature to sample what is on offer. Such men are hard to form a relationship with but it is usually apparent from the outset as to what type of relationship a woman is letting herself in for. For some men cheating is a way to boost their ego with each additional invasion it keeps on enhancing their ego to go for more.

1 comment:

Indeterminacy said...

Glad to see you're back here posting, although it also looks like you've stopped again.

Hope all is well.