Saturday, July 21, 2007

Why Men Cheat: Why Bad Men Cheat and Good Men Don't

One of the most painful experiences one undergoes in life is discovering your boyfriend or husband is a cheating man. It becomes even more painful if you strongly care about, or deeply love, him. Why men cheat is a question that demands a deep and introspective research and before we start we have to clarify what we really mean by cheating. Cheating to some people may be simple glances at a good looking woman as she walks down the street or thinking about that sexy looking number that is displayed on the calendar or thinking ‘if only I am single’.

According to woman savers 22 percent of married men have strayed at least once during their married lives, 70 percent of married women did not know of their spouses' extramarital activity, while another 3 percent of married women reported having sex with someone other than their spouse. In the year 1997, 22 percent of men admitted to having sexual relations outside their marriage sometime in their past and 17 percent of divorces in the United States are caused by infidelity.

Some of the best known males who have cheated include Hugh Grant on Liz Hurley and Tommy Lee on Heather Locklear .

At what point does a woman believes her partner is cheating her, is largely dependant on her level of insecurity. A woman who lacks confidence, who does not feel good about herself and is full of insecurities might become paranoid at the mere mention of another woman, while another who is full of self-confidence and is comfortable with herself and with her relationship is far less likely to get concerned with straying eyes and a meaningless comment.

Before answering the question ‘why do men cheat’ we need to understand as to what is normal behavior for a man. Can we get upset when a man enjoys a little flirtatious behavior or remarks on the good looks of super model if the act or comment hardly bears any substance? An innocent action that in no way impacts the way a man feels about his partner is harmless, it is how much he is and can be trusted to draw the line that matters.

Some men are just born to cheat and it is in their very nature to sample what is on offer. Such men are hard to form a relationship with but it is usually apparent from the outset as to what type of relationship a woman is letting herself in for. For some men cheating is a way to boost their ego with each additional invasion it keeps on enhancing their ego to go for more.

Saturday, July 14, 2007

Learn a Lesson from the Flowers

Do you ever wish your life could change? It can.

Wanting it to change is the first step.

Learn a lesson from the flowers

Taking action, moving in the direction of your dreams, is where real change begins.

Look at the image above. Watch the flowers. They open during the day and close at night. They follow the laws of the universe.

Now, look at the cars in the background. Rushing around 24-7. Inside, people frantic to get to their destination, whether it's home, work, or an appointment.

Doesn't that tell you something?

Think about it. Take a look at the following verses from The Bible.

Matthew 6:28 And why take ye thought for raiment? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow; they toil not, neither do they spin:

Matthew 6:29 And yet I say unto you, That even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these.

Matthew 6:30 Wherefore, if God so clothe the grass of the field, which to day is, and to morrow is cast into the oven, shall he not much more clothe you, O ye of little faith?

Read The Bible. Have faith in God. Learn a lesson from the flowers.

Taking action is where real change begins

Challenge yourself. Take the first step. Momentum will bring people into your life who will help you on your way. But, you must take the first step in order for this to happen.

Sometimes the the smallest decisions, such as moving to a new place, or talking to that stranger, can turn your whole life around.

My life has changed for the better. And so can yours.

If you want it to change, though, you have to do things differently. Step outside yourself.

The only difference between you and a millionaire is what they know. Think about it. Always continue to learn. Always continue to grow. Educate yourself. Ask questions.

Look at your friends

Look at your friends. If they are not who you want to be, then find new friends.

The rule I use for friendship is this: someone that motivates and inspires me.

Borrow this rule. Make your own rule.

Maybe you need someone that challenges you instead of someone that accepts you. Friends who are too nice won't help shape you in any way. Find a friend who is honest with you, even if it hurts. Because that friend is the one who will help you grow.

Whatever you do, take action. Action eliminates fear.

Action eliminates fear

I took action and my life has changed drastically because of it. Yours can, too.

Here's a few steps you can take to change your life for the better.

1) Ask your friends and family to write down a list of your strengths and weaknesses. You will be surprised to see how the lists resemble each other.

2) Ask yourself: Out of this list, what would I enjoy doing for free? Now ask yourself, how can I make money by doing that?

If you really enjoy watching reality shows, and like writing, write a blog about reality shows. On your blog page, add affiliate links. (You receive a percentage of the profits when people purchase affiliate link products.)

Advertise your blog by adding social URL's to it. With your reality show blog, you could register an e-mail at yahoo for Then, using that e-mail, create a myspace page and name it Then, open a forum on myspace or join someone elses.

The bottom line? Get going. The universe rewards action. It even rewards bad action and bad behaviour. You'll see that when watching 'Cops'. So take good action and move in the direction of your dreams. When you do, people, places, and events will line up to reward you.

3) Read. Continue educating yourself. Read The Bible. Read books by people who have gotten to where you want to go. There's a plethora of reading material at the library. Spend a few hours at the library. Read magazine articles that will help you get to where you are going.

4) Keep your body in a state of health. Get moving. Swim. Walk. Hike. Dance. Drink lots of water. Eat plenty of raw fruits and vegetables. Healthy body=healthy mind.

By reading this article, you are proving to yourself that you can change your life for the better. Now, put it into action and follow the steps.

Let me know your progress.