Monday, December 17, 2007

What is Normal

What is Normal when it comes to mental health? This is an age old debate that will most likely never truly be settled. What is 'normal' behavior to some may be totally 'abnormal' to others. At one time or another, everybody on earth wonders if they are 'normal.' Someone once said that if you have to ask, you probably are – simply because wondering if you are is in fact so very normal!

But how can you know for sure? There are an incredible number of mental illnesses. How will you know if you have one? First, don't start running through the list of symptoms for mental illnesses just to see if you are 'normal.' It really doesn't work that way.

Instead, think about your life, and pay special attention to problem areas. For example, do you have trouble staying focused? Do you have trouble maintaining relationships? What are your true fears? Note that none of these things make you abnormal, however.

There could be stress in your life that makes it hard to focus right now. Your trust may have been badly shaken in a relationship. You may have very real, very good reasons for your fears. This doesn't make you abnormal. In fact, it makes you quite normal.

Life, as we live it, is constantly shaping who we are, and how we view ourselves and the world around us. We all have our share of 'issues.' But having an issue is not the same as having a mental illness, and it certainly does not make us abnormal. The trick is understanding the difference between a mental illness and an issue.

Unfortunately, we may not be able to gauge the difference for ourselves. This is usually because we are much to close to the situation – ourselves – to see the full picture. Instead, you need the services of a trained therapist or counselor. Seeing a therapist or counselor doesn't make you abnormal either. In today's world, some of the most successful people have regular sessions with therapists or counselors, for a variety of reasons.

Are you wondering if you are 'normal?' Engage the services of a professional, and they will help you to discover exactly what is normal for you – remember that what is normal for others is not necessarily normal for you. They may also be able to help you work through some of those perfectly normal issues that we all have, much easier, and in less time than you can work through them yourself.

Jennifer Baxt

Saturday, July 21, 2007

Why Men Cheat: Why Bad Men Cheat and Good Men Don't

One of the most painful experiences one undergoes in life is discovering your boyfriend or husband is a cheating man. It becomes even more painful if you strongly care about, or deeply love, him. Why men cheat is a question that demands a deep and introspective research and before we start we have to clarify what we really mean by cheating. Cheating to some people may be simple glances at a good looking woman as she walks down the street or thinking about that sexy looking number that is displayed on the calendar or thinking ‘if only I am single’.

According to woman savers 22 percent of married men have strayed at least once during their married lives, 70 percent of married women did not know of their spouses' extramarital activity, while another 3 percent of married women reported having sex with someone other than their spouse. In the year 1997, 22 percent of men admitted to having sexual relations outside their marriage sometime in their past and 17 percent of divorces in the United States are caused by infidelity.

Some of the best known males who have cheated include Hugh Grant on Liz Hurley and Tommy Lee on Heather Locklear .

At what point does a woman believes her partner is cheating her, is largely dependant on her level of insecurity. A woman who lacks confidence, who does not feel good about herself and is full of insecurities might become paranoid at the mere mention of another woman, while another who is full of self-confidence and is comfortable with herself and with her relationship is far less likely to get concerned with straying eyes and a meaningless comment.

Before answering the question ‘why do men cheat’ we need to understand as to what is normal behavior for a man. Can we get upset when a man enjoys a little flirtatious behavior or remarks on the good looks of super model if the act or comment hardly bears any substance? An innocent action that in no way impacts the way a man feels about his partner is harmless, it is how much he is and can be trusted to draw the line that matters.

Some men are just born to cheat and it is in their very nature to sample what is on offer. Such men are hard to form a relationship with but it is usually apparent from the outset as to what type of relationship a woman is letting herself in for. For some men cheating is a way to boost their ego with each additional invasion it keeps on enhancing their ego to go for more.

Saturday, July 14, 2007

Learn a Lesson from the Flowers

Do you ever wish your life could change? It can.

Wanting it to change is the first step.

Learn a lesson from the flowers

Taking action, moving in the direction of your dreams, is where real change begins.

Look at the image above. Watch the flowers. They open during the day and close at night. They follow the laws of the universe.

Now, look at the cars in the background. Rushing around 24-7. Inside, people frantic to get to their destination, whether it's home, work, or an appointment.

Doesn't that tell you something?

Think about it. Take a look at the following verses from The Bible.

Matthew 6:28 And why take ye thought for raiment? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow; they toil not, neither do they spin:

Matthew 6:29 And yet I say unto you, That even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these.

Matthew 6:30 Wherefore, if God so clothe the grass of the field, which to day is, and to morrow is cast into the oven, shall he not much more clothe you, O ye of little faith?

Read The Bible. Have faith in God. Learn a lesson from the flowers.

Taking action is where real change begins

Challenge yourself. Take the first step. Momentum will bring people into your life who will help you on your way. But, you must take the first step in order for this to happen.

Sometimes the the smallest decisions, such as moving to a new place, or talking to that stranger, can turn your whole life around.

My life has changed for the better. And so can yours.

If you want it to change, though, you have to do things differently. Step outside yourself.

The only difference between you and a millionaire is what they know. Think about it. Always continue to learn. Always continue to grow. Educate yourself. Ask questions.

Look at your friends

Look at your friends. If they are not who you want to be, then find new friends.

The rule I use for friendship is this: someone that motivates and inspires me.

Borrow this rule. Make your own rule.

Maybe you need someone that challenges you instead of someone that accepts you. Friends who are too nice won't help shape you in any way. Find a friend who is honest with you, even if it hurts. Because that friend is the one who will help you grow.

Whatever you do, take action. Action eliminates fear.

Action eliminates fear

I took action and my life has changed drastically because of it. Yours can, too.

Here's a few steps you can take to change your life for the better.

1) Ask your friends and family to write down a list of your strengths and weaknesses. You will be surprised to see how the lists resemble each other.

2) Ask yourself: Out of this list, what would I enjoy doing for free? Now ask yourself, how can I make money by doing that?

If you really enjoy watching reality shows, and like writing, write a blog about reality shows. On your blog page, add affiliate links. (You receive a percentage of the profits when people purchase affiliate link products.)

Advertise your blog by adding social URL's to it. With your reality show blog, you could register an e-mail at yahoo for Then, using that e-mail, create a myspace page and name it Then, open a forum on myspace or join someone elses.

The bottom line? Get going. The universe rewards action. It even rewards bad action and bad behaviour. You'll see that when watching 'Cops'. So take good action and move in the direction of your dreams. When you do, people, places, and events will line up to reward you.

3) Read. Continue educating yourself. Read The Bible. Read books by people who have gotten to where you want to go. There's a plethora of reading material at the library. Spend a few hours at the library. Read magazine articles that will help you get to where you are going.

4) Keep your body in a state of health. Get moving. Swim. Walk. Hike. Dance. Drink lots of water. Eat plenty of raw fruits and vegetables. Healthy body=healthy mind.

By reading this article, you are proving to yourself that you can change your life for the better. Now, put it into action and follow the steps.

Let me know your progress.

Thursday, April 05, 2007

What is Plagiarism?

According to Wikipedia, plagiarism is “…the use of another person’s work… for personal advantage without proper acknowledgment of the original work with the intention of passing it off as your own.” Plagiarism is cheating, a fraud which is as unacceptable as stealing and lying. As such, it can carry a heavy penalty when a perpetrator is found to have plagiarized another person’s work. In many cases the avoidance of plagiarism is taught from the high school to college level so that students are used to the idea that this form of cheating is just like any other. The consequences can include failing grades, expulsion from school and even the revocation of a degree. Plagiarism can be intentional or unintentional. When a person intends to plagiarize, it can be done in many forms. They include copying work from already published material, paying someone to write the material (for non-business purposes where the buyer does not own the rights), or buying already completed materials; if there is no proper reference given to the author, and the intention is to pass the work as one’s own, it is plagiarism. It can also be done by copying someone else’s idea and not giving proper reference to that person in the completed work. Until recently most plagiarism required some research, or at least a trip to the library, but with the advent of easy internet access it is easy to locate and even buy documents. The penalty for intentional plagiarism tends to be the most severe, possibly leading to the revocation of a degree. Unintentional plagiarism is generally caused by ignorance of citation rules or a lax attitude in referencing work used to create a document. Most unintentional plagiarism is punishable to a lesser degree with having to rewrite submitted material, having to include original thoughts and ideas in the work to make it clear that the work has not been copied, or at least reworking the references so that the citation is corrected. Ignorance of the rules is not excuse enough to remove the fault from the plagiarizer. Plagiarism is morally wrong but there is no law against it. There have been many historical figures who have been found to have plagiarized important works, it is morally wrong and results in the plagiarizer’s writing ability being stunted. It is necessary, when writing, to formulate one’s own opinions and express them in an original manner even when the work has been researched and takes some information from a previous writer. As long as the reference is cited properly, any writer can avoid being accused of plagiarism and improve their writing ability by learning from (not copying) the examples of others. Works Cited Wikipedia. “What is Plagiarism?” Dec. 31, 2005. Accessed Dec. 31, 2005. Madison Area Technical College (Writing Center). “Avoiding Plagiarism” Accessed Dec. 31, 2005.

Tuesday, March 20, 2007

How to Write a Successful Application Essay

So you are now ready to join the college. But getting admission into the college of your choice won’t be that easy, as more and more pupils are applying for the limited slots every academic year. You are now facing the challenge of writing the most successful application essay for the eyes of admission officers; who would also be judging the essays of all the other applicants, probably with the same profiles, backgrounds and test scores as you have.

This 500-word application essay becomes the bases for the acceptance and rejection, as it is the only way admission officers can judge the worth of the applicant. It is very natural to feel concerned at this stage; standing out in a crowd is not an easy task and thus calls for extra care and preparation. But what ever the case may be, let not the essay stress you out, be very playful to gain utmost.

Follow the following while you write the essay:

Brainstorming; a crucial step:
The key to truly presenting an insightful and incisive application essay is to go through the exercise of brainstorming. It brings out the ideas and thoughts out on the paper that might not be consciously significant to you in the first place.

If you are finding it difficult you can always take help from your friends and family that knows you well. There point of view would be different and really revealing at times. If you have a role model, study his or her personality to discover yourself.

It would be better if you set out goals for the life ahead of you. Brainstorming sessions will help you go through it. It might give you a fresh outlook of what you really want out of life.

Prepare a rough, unedited initial draft and consider the following when pondering:
1. Note down your skills, aptitude and interests no matter how meager they seems to be, like wise accomplishments and ambitions.
2. Noticeable highlights of your life, which have changed your perspectives in anyway.
3. The struggles of your life and their outcomes; either positive or negative and how it has changed your life.
4. Your contributions towards the society through community services etc.
5. And most of all, brainstorm why you want to join the specific institute, what is compelling you to apply there and how will you proof commendable of it.

What to write; choosing the theme or topic of the essay:
The essay could be about anything, you can describe you in any way you desire. You can discuss any topic you wish on earth. But the challenge remains of using the essay up to the maximum. Remember it is the only way of proving your self to be outstanding.

Present your goals, ambitions and accomplishments of life. If you are not the high achiever explain why you are not so. Always keep the theme of the essay positive. Show yourself as a stronger person rather than a pitiable one. Present as if you the one who could work against all odds and can put up a good fight against obstacles. You must attempt writing on such topic that shows your individuality and promotes your desire to be the attendant of the college as well.

Choose a theme about which you have ample amount of knowledge. Difficult and tricky topics, merely to impress the readers will render you with nothing. More avoid the complex, controversial topics. Like politics and religious affairs, even if you choose to write about them, write down more about your point of view rather than commenting who is right and who wrong.

Final Draft: Tips for writing good essays:
1. It is quite advisable to visit the desired college or visit its website and read brochures and introductions. This way, you will have the insight of what the organization believes in and you can arrange the essay accordingly.
2. Take your time and understand what you are expected to write. Understand the questions you have been asked and the requirements you have to fulfill. Take about three or four weeks to ponder on the essay and the ideas you have in mind.
3. Analyzing other previously attempted application essays would help you a lot. Writing application must be a new task for you and going through the others gives you a good idea for writing your own.
4. Copying the style of others would not help, be original and be you. There would be experiences in your life that can set you apart from other people and similar actions. So be open to express yourself and your feeling about a topic you decide to write about.
5. Make an outline or a plan to follow through out the process and refer back continually. The paragraphs of the essay should relate to each other, follow the rules of logical flow in writing.
6. You could be creative in your presentation. Catchy openings can do much more then a dry, lengthy and uninteresting essay. Introduce yourself in the first paragraph as the readers are found to maintain the interest for first few minutes. Show off your self as captivating as you can for those few moments. Creating Mystery is one good idea of keeping the interest of the readers for the rest of the essay.
7. Show what have you achieved by using the action verbs and active voice. Describe your life by applying adjectives and descriptive nouns. It would be more impressive and will make a picture in the mind of the admission officers. Imagery presentations are like five-sense experience and eye catching. At the end of the day, after reading thousands of the essays, your way of presenting yourself will be in the minds of the admission officers.
8. Conclude your essay with caution. It might be the last chance of convincing your reader that you deserve to be in there.
9. Your essay should not be the repetition of your information given in the other parts of the application; it must discuss the dimensions of your personality that needs description.
10. Use different words to express yourself. Do not hesitate to use dictionary or thesaurus. It will give a good perspective to your essay. Remember too much of the repetition of the words would dull the essay and loss of interest on the part of the readers. But using thesaurus doesn’t mean complex words can impress the officers, it might rebound if you use them out of context and if simple and common words are better off.
11. Too many long or short the sentences makes the presentation monotonous and boring.
12. Take great care in using the language. Look out for the spelling mistakes and other common grammatical errors. These avoidable errors make the essay off-putting and the impact on the readers about your personality is ruinous. You might be assumed as careless person.
13. You can proof read the essay before submitting it. Revision is one of the most important key to a successful and custom written admission essay.
14. It would be better if you could leave the essay after writing for few days; and then get back to it. The fresh look might help you improve the essay.

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